Why do we fear failure?

We fear failure because we are afraid of tainting our carefully crafted image of ourselves. We fear being judged, ridiculed, or not meeting expectations. And we fear not measuring up to the high standards we set for ourselves. But if we dwell on the potential of failure for too long, fear stops us from proceeding at all.

How do you proceed when you fear failure?

Think about it, what is the worst that can happen if you give it a try? Well, you fail at succeeding this time, you learn from your mistakes and keep going. Yes, that’s right, you’ll likely go on with your life, and eventually find your way out of an unfortunate situation. But what is the worst that can happen if you don’t try? You prevent yourself from achieving your goals. Result? Failure.

As you can see from the two answers above, you risk failing either way. But the price of not trying is higher, because you may have something truly valuable to offer, or gain. The potential rewards of proceeding through fear of failure are far greater than the pitfalls. And you never know when an attempt to face your fears leads to greatness. Give yourself this opportunity.

Here are three tips to proceed with your goals when you fear failure.

Proceed Through Fear of Failure

1. Don’t focus on what you don’t want to happen.

I am sure you can find endless reasons you shouldn’t do something. That negative voice inside your head is the mastermind behind your fear of failure. So silence it by finding the reasons you should do something. Focus on achieving a positive outcome and do your best to make it happen. Also, keep in mind that some of the most successful people in the world failed multiple times before they found success. Why would you be any different? The key to succeeding is perseverance. You fall, you get up and you try again.

2. Don’t expect a smooth road to success.

Even if you reach your peak in life, you won’t remain there forever. It’s an up and down thing. Nobody stays at their peak forever, because life is made of highs and lows. Without one, we wouldn’t know the other. Instead of obsessing over how to prevent those lows, be aware that it’s a natural life cycle. Strive for the best outcome, but handle failure with grace and an open mind. Your energy and time are never wasted when you attempt to achieve a goal. Life is a never ending learning journey, and failure is part of its lessons.

3. Take a healthy dose of mindfulness.

Mindfulness is an indispensable tool when dealing with fear of failure. It allows you to pay attention in the present moment, nonjudgmentally. And it helps you focus on creating something you’re proud of without expecting approval, or admiration. So when you catch yourself fearing failure, find an inner source of calm. Activities like listening to music, going for a walk, or playing with a pet are great sources to tap into when you’re feeling anxious or fearful.

Treat fear of failure as a naturally occuring feeling, but don’t allow it to stand in the way of pursuing dreams. Remember, even if you are gifted, talented, or extremely knowledgeable in your field, there will always be someone who won’t like your work, or who will disagree with your opinion. The constant need for approval and appreciation fuels fear of failure so don’t expect either. Instead, allow curiosity and interest in the end result to lead the way. They will keep you motivated as you go through the process of reaching your target destination.

Finally, self-acceptance and self-awareness must be at the base of everything you do. Be aware of your potential because you can only be as great as you allow yourself to be. And instill passion in your goals since passion is what will keep you going when you feel like giving up. Now, proceed!

For a great source of inspiration on resilience read my favorite book of all time Unbroken, by Laura Hillenbrand

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